You know what’s wild?
Typically, when women start thinking about booking a boudoir session, we don’t immediately imagine the soft studio light, the laughter, the goosebumps, or that spine-tingling moment when we see our images and whisper, “That’s me…”
Nope.
We imagine what other people will think.
That’s generally where our brain goes first, straight into The Things We Think People Will Think. Have you ever felt that little spark, the quiet “what if…?”, only to instantly shut it down with:
“But what will people think?”
Before you’ve even pictured the experience, before you’ve even felt what it might do for your confidence,
before you’ve even stepped anywhere near a camera. You’re already picturing the reactions of everyone else.
Your partner’s comment.
A family member’s sarcasm.
Your mother’s raised eyebrow.
Your best friend’s silent thoughts.
And just like that, the idea quietly vanishes, long before it ever had a chance to become real.
Why Are We Always Casting Imaginary Critics?
We don’t just worry about what real people might think; some of us invent entire opinionated audiences in our heads (yup, I’ve been guilty of this!).
We write their dialogue. We stage their reactions. We hand them authority over decisions that belong to us. And then we do the saddest thing of all – We say no to something we secretly want.
Not because it’s wrong.
Not because it’s out of reach.
But because we’re scared of looking silly, vain, bold, visible, confident, or (dare I say it…) Empowered.
The Truth: Boudoir Isn’t About Being Seen By Others
It’s about finally seeing yourself.
People often imagine a boudoir session is something confident women do. In reality, a boudoir session is what women do to become confident. The women who book sessions are not the “look at me” type; they’re often the “please don’t look at me yet, I’m still working on it” type. The women who are always volunteering to take the group shot so they won’t be in it, who quietly long to feel beautiful but never quite feel allowed.
Boudoir doesn’t ask you to perform. It invites you to permit.
Permission to take up space. Permission to feel powerful, sensual, soft, fierce. Permission to belong to your own body.
Let’s Clear Up One Huge Misconception
When you work with Boudoir By Laurette, you can have a boudoir session and never share a single image but still keep the experience, transformation, and newfound self-awe. You can do it just for you.
You don’t have to show anyone the photos.
I never share a single image without full, enthusiastic permission. You’re always in control. If you want to keep your images completely private, cherished, personal, just for you (or maybe even tucked away in a drawer for future you), that’s exactly how they’ll stay.
Your experience is yours, not for anyone else’s eyes unless you decide otherwise.
You can even plan it in secret – Read: How To Secretly Plan a Boudoir Session (sometimes the most powerful rebellions are quiet ones!)
A Pattern We Don’t Even Notice
We women are experts at postponing our own joy.
“Not now.”
“Not me.”
“Not until I lose the weight.”
“Not until I feel ready.”
“Not until I’m more confident.”
But confidence doesn’t arrive like a delivery.
It’s created through action.
Confidence is the result, not the qualification.
Ready to Step Forward From the Back Row?
When you’re ready, not when you’re confident, not when you’ve lost weight, not when you’ve earned it, just when you’re curious.
Come talk with me.
Once you’ve taken that brave (but secretly thrilling) plunge and filled out my contact form, the next step is a video call. Now, don’t panic, this isn’t some polished, corporate-style interview where you’re expected to arrive in full glam and pretend you’ve got everything figured out.
Picture this instead:
I’ll be sitting in my chilled-out clothes, hair probably in a messy bun, cup of tea nearby, and you’ll be invited to show up exactly as you are, nervous, excited, uncertain, all of it will be welcome and NOT judged.
It’s a conversation, a chance to breathe, to explore the idea, to gently unpick the worries and hear what’s been whispering inside you for a while now.
It’s the moment you inch closer to my studio door and be one step away from not giving a single flying fuck what other people think!
So let’s talk. Not when you’re ready, but when you’re done waiting!
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